How hard is it to put on a happy face when you're not feel'n it? I mean, really down deep, all the way to your very core ... not feel'n it?
- It's just not you, never has been, and what's more, seeing the little smiley face thing makes you want to smash it.
- It's like all those sunny, happy-faced airheads you run into haven't a clue about the real world and the stuff you've had to deal with.
- It's phony, pretentious, and completely unrealistic - in short, it totally blows and so do those doing the happy thing.
You want to set the world straight. Here you are, out there trying to get your game together and your background issue won't allow you to get anywhere. It comes up and there goes the opportunity. Doesn't anyone get it? How are you going to turn the corner if the digital you keeps getting in the way?
You're pissed about it. Of course you're not so far out of tune you go around in constant Grumpy Guss mode ... but it's there, underneath just the same.
So here's the tough love on this one. It takes another person 3-8 seconds to like you or not. And there you are, working hard to find THE job, at a big disadvantage. You've got a major background snag and you're competing against those that don't. For you, it's not about being likeable in a social or work-enhancement sense. No. It's business 101. You're trying to sell your service to someone. Which means, locating a buyer (hint, employer) and making a sale.
Okay, I have one question for YOU:
When was the last time you bought something from someone you didn't like?
Job hunting with a background problem means likeability isn't an option, regardless of how you feel. If you want to make the sale, you have to pass the 3-8 second test.